Why "I Hate You" is a Good Thing to Hear!
By Annie Berryhill
I love training group and personal fitness clients using Crossfit methods. I especially love seeing them work through some challenges and come out on top.
But by far, the best thing I could EVER hear a client say is "I HATE YOU".
So, you are probably thinking this is a little odd. Why would one of the most heinous phrases in the English language delight me so much?
There are some pretty powerful and gratifying reasons that I relish hearing this magical words:
1. If the client is saying that to me, either in jest or with some other intensity, they are being PUSHED. When someone is being pushed into and through discomfort, I know with 100% surety, I am doing my job at a high level. That is a great feeling. Most people don't even know what pushing themselves feels like, so I get to dish it out, and I LOVE IT!
2. When my clients say that to me, I know that they are experiencing some STRETCHING that is waaaaaaay outside their comfort zone. Its a classic scene in movies where the expectant mother, who is in the throws of labor, screams similar words to the man who got her into this situation in the first place. In the moment, it can seem POSITIVELY awful. But once the work has passed, and the end result is attained, all is forgotten and forgiven.
3.I HATE YOU really means I HATE FEELING LIKE THIS! Fair enough, but know, if they could get the results that want by sitting and doing nothing, they would not need me. If they are feeling something that is making your get closer to the goals, then I have actually done a good job of programming and getting you to execute the work.
4. It fuels intensity and determination for them to look me in the eye and say that. It's nearly an inner rage that occurs even in the most even keel, passive types. Just uttering those words are like lighting a keg of gasoline under their own behinds. Again, it totally works for me…I want them to work intensely!
5.We both know its a temporary condition. Not one time, in the hundreds of times clients have told me that did any client every leave, fire or continue that sentiment against me. (course I like to make sure I bring it out in them every once in a while!)
So if you are training with someone who makes you feel really comfy-cozy, who never corrects or directs you or who has never lit a fire under you butt, maybe it's time to find someone who every once in a while you want to tell them how much you need them by telling them "I HATE YOU".
It's that kind of trainer who is going to get you out of your rut and back into your playing shape, complete with fire and intensity!
Let me be your partner in the pursuit of your goals!
You are DESIGNED to live
LEAN – STRONG – HEALTHY!
What experiences have you had with trainers? Your comments are so important to me! Just share them in the comment box below the Bio section!
Anne (Annie) Berryhill is a Crossfit Level 1 Trainer, USA Weightlifting Sports Perfomance Coach, Crossfit Athlete and competitor who owns and operates OC Fitness Revival in Orange County, CA. Services include personal and group training, nutrition classes and counseling, as well as providing incredible health-improving supplements to help people to make the most out of what they've got.
(949) 280-3407 Anne@anneberryhill.com